Are you tired of going on lame dates with guys who don’t know what they’re looking for or want in a relationship? Is the idea of meeting another immature man who’s not ready for a relationship making you want to never date again?
Here are three tips for finding and meeting real men.
1. Meeting Real Men Starts with You!
If you’re hoping to find a real man then you first have to become a real woman.
This means knowing yourself, your values, your wants and your needs in a relationship. Only once you know this, will you be able to find the kind of man who is on the same wavelength as you. Plus, by knowing yourself and living your truth, you’ll be more likely to attract your ideal man.
Grab a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle of it.
On the left hand side write out all of your absolute, non-negotiable necessities. These could include things like someone looking for a committed relationship, someone who is driven and passionate, someone who shares the same values as you, and so on.
On the other half, make a list of the things you would be open to exploring. The more detailed you can get here the better, and this list can change as you continue to meet men and experience new encounters. For instance, what you think is a “possibility” right now, maybe quickly become a necessity.
On this half of the list you might include things like someone who is adventurous, someone who shares the same interests as you, etc. This can help you narrow down what kind of guy you’re looking for or even identify if a man already in your life, might be the one for you.
2. Be Open to New Experiences
If you’re looking to meet a real man, different from the ones you already have in your life, then you’re going to have to expand your horizons and check out some new spots.
Not to be stereotypical here, but you’ll need to consider the places you’re looking for Mr. Right because I highly doubt the kind of guy you’re looking for is grinding with girls on the dance floor of the newly 19 hot spot.
It can be tough opening yourself up to new experiences, but a good practice is to be a “yes girl.”
This isn’t to say you have to agree to every opportunity that arises, but rather make a point to put yourself out there and try new things. Maybe you always skip office happy hour, or you’ve been turning down your girlfriend’s invitations to social events. Instead of backing away from the idea of something new, give it a go!
Another helpful tip is to take a look at your list and ask yourself where the kind of guys you’d like to meet would be hanging out.
For instance, are you looking for an artsy intellectual? Then check out a museum or gallery. Do you have a thing for musicians? Sign yourself up for a local jam night or check out an open mic.
Even if you don’t meet the man of your dreams, putting yourself out there is great practice for when the right guy does come along
Doing new things can be frightening, but you won’t know what you’re missing out on unless you try it. Besides, what’s the worse that could happen? You meet someone who doesn’t float your boat, or you don’t meet anyone at all? I’d say it’s a risk worth taking.
3. Be the Approacher
The only way to know if you’re compatible with a man is to talk to him, so don’t be afraid to kick off a conversation with the handsome stranger you’ve been eyeing down.
Since most men are absolutely terrified of being rejected by women, you’d be surprised how often they hold back and don’t make a move… even though they’re secretly kicking themselves for not having the courage to do so.
Better yet, a real man will find the confidence it takes to approach him extremely attractive, and you’ll quickly realize how much he appreciates you taking the initiative to do so.
When you do make a move, be sure to smile and keep the conversation light and positive. When he sees what a breath of fresh air you are, you’ll have him captivated and wanting to learn more about you.
Of course this requires a certain amount of confidence, but boosting yours isn’t as tough as it sounds.
In fact, something as simple as reciting daily mantras in the mirror or wearing sexy underwear will do wonders for your dating game and make meeting real men so much easier.