So many relationship experts will tell you that playing games is key to winning a man’s heart. While this may sound like nonsense, it’s actually quite true.
Believe it or not, there are several subconscious things you can do to make any man crazy about you, and playing hard to get is a big one. If you’re looking to land your dream man and have a happy, healthy relationship then follow these simple rules.
Avoid being or appearing to be needy.
Being desperate or clingy is the COMPLETE opposite of playing hard to get. Instead it’s important to let things develop at a pace based on his interest rather than on your own. To do this, don’t initiate contact with him or set up dates, but rather let him be the first to come to you. The person who makes the first move is always put in a weaker bargaining position than the person who chooses whether or not to accept it. Be in the power position.
When he first contacts you, ignore him.
Since men are born hunters they love the chase. By making him work for your attention you’ll have him coming back for more. To get started, don’t answer your phone when he calls or text him back right away. Instead, wait a little while before getting back to him. Showing him that you have a busy life and aren’t sitting by the phone waiting to hear from him is not only a turn on, but he’ll feel privileged when you do contact him.
Turn him down.
When a man first asks you out, say no. Tell him you’re busy and say maybe another time. By making him ask more than once to see you, you’ll easily keep him interested. Again, this is about the chase, so even if your only plans are sitting on the couch with your cat, tell him you’re busy. If you make a man wait and work hard to lock down a date with you, he will worship you and cherish the time that you do finally spend together. The harder he has to fight for you, the more he will value you.
Don’t change your plans for him.
Never put a lover’s life before your own. If he asks you to do something with him at a time that conflicts with your schedule then tell him no. Standing your ground and showing him that your plans are important is admirable, and best of all, he’ll respect you for it.
If you’re busy enjoying your life as it is, playing hard to get will come naturally because you’ll have too much going on in your everyday life to be easily available. Go out with friends, meet new people and have fun. As tempting as it may be to sit in your home alone, you can’t play hard to get if you’re never out on the town.
Taking good care of yourself and making your own life a priority is attractive. Men love it when women are passionate about something, so find what it is that you love and keep it in your life long after you’ve locked down your man. Tossing aside the things you enjoy doing and believe in when a guy comes around is lame and shows low self-esteem. Men are drawn to women who have self respect, and if you’re happy and carefree, he will notice.
Say what you mean and mean what you say.
If your date wants to go to a steakhouse and you’re a vegetarian, then speak up. If you want to take things slowly with him then say so. Vocalizing your wants and needs from the start will make way for a healthy relationship in the future. Make sure your words and body language match, and always be honest with yourself and your man. Simply put: Be yourself, don’t try too hard to impress him and show him the real you.
Have a life outside of the relationship.
A couple shouldn’t always do everything together. Having hobbies and interests outside of your relationship will give you the space you need to maintain a healthy relationship. When couples allow their lives to mesh together and create a shared sense of being things get stale and the spark fades fast. Instead of being joined at the hip let him have a night out with the boys and do your own things without him. Just as it’s important to have activities that you share together, it’s equally as important to fly solo every now and then.
Men love it when women recognize their efforts, so to keep him coming back let him know that you appreciate him. To do so, give him small reminders that his conquest is worthwhile and that he’s not just wasting his time barking up the wrong tree. A little encouragement goes a long way, but be erratic with your encouragement so he stays on his toes. For example you could text him something like “You’re sweet. That was a nice date.” Even if you’re an independent woman who can take care of herself, acknowledging the small things he does for you will do wonders for your relationship.
Bonus tip: Don’t overdo it! Subtle hard to get gestures are best. Leave him hanging, don’t cut him off!