Dating Advice for Women From Men

Men are from mars, women are from venus — That’s right, we’re from two completely different planets.

So then, have you ever wondered what men look for in a potential partner or relationship?

Instead of focusing on all the things you want in a relationship, it’s important to also consider what men want.

To give you some insight, here are the top eight things that men have repeatedly said are important to them.

Women holding and yeling at tiny manDon’t be a nag.

He may have forgotten to call you back or didn’t make those dinner reservations, but don’t nag him. In fact, the more you do, the more he’ll tune you out.

Sure, it’s okay to ask him if he’s done something, but ask once then leave him be for a few days. Chances are he’s waiting until the last minute because that’s how most guys work.

If he forgets, call him out on it, but not before he’s proven so.

Don’t be bossy.

There are few things that are more demasculinizing then telling a man what to do. That’s why it’s no surprise that they hate it so much.

Men have their own way of doing things and don’t appreciate when women try to change them. No matter matter how much “his way” may irritate you, don’t be bossy. Remember, your toothpaste will survive if he doesn’t squeeze it from the bottom, and at his place, toilet seat up is fair game.

Guys don’t try to tell you the right way to wear your hair or arrange your shoes, so leave them alone, too.

Women checking herself out in a mirrorDon’t obsess over your looks

He may fantasize about the hot waitress or newest porn star but that doesn’t mean he wants to date her. If there’s nothing more there than looks, he’s going to get bored, fast!

Your body may have been the first thing he was attracted to, but it won’t hold his interest unless there’s more to you. Be yourself and don’t be so self-conscious about looks.

Confidence is the sexiest trait a woman can possess.

Don’t act stupid 

For whatever reason, some women feel the need to dumb down their smarts around men. Perhaps it’s to make him feel superior or maybe they think it’s cute, but the truth is guys love intelligence.

Sure they may talk about the “hot girls” more than the “smart girls” but really they like women who can hold a conversation. If you can hold your own and know how to take care of yourself that’s what’ll really get him going.

Woman leaning over her man smiling.Don’t fixate on what he’s thinking

How many times have you asked a man, “What are you thinking?” and he’s said, “Nothing.” Then you think, “Well that doesn’t sound right, he must be lying” and conclude that he’s not willing to communicate with you. The problem is, this is the wrong question.

Men are action-oriented, which means that you don’t need to ask what he’s thinking, just watch what he’s doing.

Don’t ask lose-lose or rhetorical questions

“Do these jeans make me look fat?” “Do you think she’s more attractive than me?”

When a guy tells you his opinion, take it for what it is. “You look fine” doesn’t mean he thinks you’re not attractive or that he’s ashamed of being seen with you. Don’t set him up to lose.

*Bonus tip: If you don’t point it out, he probably won’t notice. In other words, it’s not until you ask if your shirt is too tight that he notices those few extra pounds you’ve put on.

Woman pulling away from man on couchDon’t compare him to your ex

Whether it’s out loud or even in your head, men hate it when women compare them to their ex.

Sometimes horror stories about exes can make for fun discussion, but don’t ever bring your ex into the conversation if it’s not called for. If you can’t keep his name out of your mouth for a couple of hours, it’ll seem like you’re not over past issues.

Give him a chance and be open to getting to know him before you compare him to past lovers.

Don’t play coy

If you like him, let him know. If you don’t, let him go.

Men hate it when women pretend to not care and secretly hope that he chases her down. They find it frustrating and immature.

That’s not to say that men don’t enjoy the chase — because they do, a lot! What they don’t enjoy is wasting their time. Be honest with him.

About Amy North

Amy North is a women's relationship coach and best-selling author from Vancouver, Canada. Her high-acclaimed programs include "Text Chemistry" and "The Devotion System", both of which have helped thousands of women from around the world find (and keep) the man of their dreams.

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