How to Attract Men with Facebook and Instagram

When it comes to social media, it’s easy to create an image for yourself. In fact, often times we do so without even realizing it. That’s why if you want guys to notice and hit on you, then it’s important you’re aware of the message you are sending out to the world.

How To Attract Men On Facebook And Instagram

While this may sound like quite the challenge, don’t panic. I’ve broken the process down into four easy to follow steps. Once you learn these you’ll be on your way in no time!

1. Choose the Right Photos

When it comes to choosing the right photos there are a few things to keep in mind.

First is to make sure not all of your photos are of you with others. Before I elaborate on this, I want to be blunt and say you should not have photos of you with your ex if you’re looking to make guys hit on you. Simple as that. Even if you really love the photo of the two of you, crop him out, it will do wonders for your odds of getting a man’s attention. This may sound insensitive, but you have to consider your priorities here.

Now let’s talk about friend photos. While it’s great to have some friend pics on your social sites, it’s important potential suitors know who YOU ARE in the photo. If you and the same three girls are in every photo you post, then how is he going to be able to pick you out of the bunch? Be sure to have at least a couple solo shots. 

When it comes to your solo shots, don’t post all selfies. Selfies take quite a bashing in the online world, so avoid posing with your camera held over head, and for the love of all things holy, do not use duck-face photos or share pictures that reveal far too much of your lady goods. Keeping these to his imagination will take you much farther than a zoomed in cleavage shot.

No man is going to be excited seeing the same photo again and again. What will catch his eye however are creative shots in cool places. Do you have any pictures from a trip you’ve taken, or a memorable event you attended? Use those instead. It will not only help you to stand out, but these can also serve as great ice breakers or conversation starters!

2. Focus On the Good

There’s so much negativity on the internet as is, so make your profile a positive space. Positivity is one of the things that men find irresistibly attractive. Instead of ranting about the injustices of the world or re-posting updates of horrific disasters be the beacon of light in a dark time.

This doesn’t make you insensitive or uneducated, it simply means you realize there’s enough bad news spanning your social pages as is.

Choose to focus on the positive. Share the funny jokes and inspiring posts about happiness. Post your new favourite songs and about what an amazing day you had. No one loves the messenger who brings bad news, not to mention it won’t reflect well on your personality.

You’re trying to attract men after all, so don’t make his heart sink anytime he checks out your page. Instead be the reason he smiles, it’ll keep him coming back for more. No matter how tough the world becomes, you should never run out of sweetness.

3. Stay Active In the Real World

Now this one may sound a bit odd, especially since we’re talking about how to have an attractive Facebook page or Instagram account, but hear me out for a moment.

There are few things LESS ATTRACTIVE than someone who is devoured by the online world. What’s worse is you can tell when this happens to someone. How? Because they are posting updates 24/7! Everything they do is mirrored or mentioned online, and they don’t hesitate to post lengthy rants or stories about their days.

This is something you SHOULDN’T do if you’re looking to get hit on by a man. Why? Because he’ll think you have no life, which is not what you want if you’re trying to get hit on. 

Instead limit the number of things you post and share. Maybe it’s once every few days, or maybe it’s twice daily. Perhaps some days you write an update, post a photo and share a song, then the next you simply sign in and leave your page well enough alone. I’m not going to give you a magic number to use here, because everyone is different and every day is different. The point I’m trying to make however is to just avoid overdoing it. He doesn’t need to know your every move, and besides, he’ll be much more interested when you keep him wondering about what you are up to.

4. Be Yourself

It’s so easy to spot someone who’s just posting for the sake of posting. Instead of falling into the trend of mimicking other women on the internet, be your true blue self — in fact, this is the most powerful piece of advice I can give you for attracting men on the internet. Authenticity is the key to creating lasting love.

The truth is, most men are looking for that needle in the haystack, the woman who is not like all the others. So, if you’re posting the same types of photos and sharing all the trending posts then what about you is going to stand out?

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Remember, if you want to make guys hit on you, then you need to give them a reason to stop and stare! Again, the best way to do this is by being you, and before you know it, your inbox will be bursting with pickup lines and date offers from interested men.

How to Attract Men with Facebook and Instagram

About Amy North

Amy North is a women's relationship coach and best-selling author from Vancouver, Canada. Her high-acclaimed programs include "Text Chemistry" and "The Devotion System", both of which have helped thousands of women from around the world find (and keep) the man of their dreams.

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