5 Texts To Prevent A Man From Pulling Away

How many times have you met a seemingly great guy, only to have him pull away or vanish from your life? Sadly, most of us know that feeling all too well.

What if I told you that there are certain text messages you can send a guy to stop him from pulling away? Interested? Stay tuned, because I’m going to share five types of text messages you can send your guy to keep him close.

1. The “Escape” Text

Contrary to it’s name, this is the kind of text you WANT to send to a man to stop him from escaping.

What exactly is an Escape Text? Well for starters, it’s a fun, creative message that you send to your man. What’s really great about it though is that by using the simple but powerful words I’m going to teach you, you will be able to give him something that no one else can: a brief break or escape from reality.

Since Escape texts are designed to get your guy to think outside of the framework of everyday life, these kind of messages not only let his mind wander to another perhaps pleasanter place, but they’re also great conversation kick-starters. So, if you’re looking to be his breathe of fresh air, then the secret is to come up with creative, intriguing questions to text him — the kind of messages that will give him an opportunity to live in make-believe for a moment or two.

For instance, instead of sending him a plain old “tell me something” text to get a conversation going, or asking him the same boring, routine questions, spice it up and make your texts exciting. A few good examples of Escape text messages are:

“If you could have one superpower, what would it be?” or, “If you could live in any era, which one would you choose?”

“If you could go anywhere in the world right now, where you choose to go?”

These text messages are short and to the point. You don’t need to dress them up because when you ask a question that’s interesting enough, it’s compelling enough on it’s on so you don’t need to add all the bells and whistles.

Just be sure to ask questions that will make him feel a spark of childlike wonder again. The kind of questions that will set his soul on fire and make him think good thoughts. Have fun with these texts and make them your own. Remember though, while this is a great opportunity for you to learn something new about your man, be prepared to answer whatever questions you ask him, too!

2. The “Wish You Were Here” Text

As you may conclude from the name, these are the kind of messages you can send a man to tease him and create sexual tension. The kind of messages that will make him want to drop what he is doing and get to wherever it is that you are. Now, that’s not to say that he will or should actually drop his plans, but the point is that these kind of text messages will evoke THAT MUCH emotion in him that he may for a moment or two consider doing so.

Of course these texts can be as PG or R rated as you’re comfortable with, but keep in mind that even though your man may not say it, every guy wants sex, so you may want to get a little bit frisky with these.

Now, you may be thinking, “But Amy, my guy isn’t your typical man’s man. Sex isn’t the most important thing to him.” While that’s totally fine, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t want sex, it just means he’s more reserved saying so or admitting it to you. That’s why “Wish you were here” texts are a smooth way to peak his interest and attraction to you, which in the long run, will do wonders for keeping him close and committed to you.

So, what exactly is an “Wish You Were Here” text?” Well, simply put, it’s a descriptive text for you to tell your man what you’d do to him if he was there with you. Of course these can be pretty fantastical, meaning, you can say things that you wouldn’t ACTUALLY do, but by painting him a picture you’ll not only turn him on, but you’ll begin to associate your text messages with feel good, romantic feelings. When that happens he’ll look forward to hearing from you.

Examples of “Wish You Were Here” texts are:

“If you were here I would slowly push myself against you and kiss your lips so softly.”

A more R-rated one of these texts would be something along the lines of:

“If you were here right now I would climb on top of you, unbutton your shirt and trace my fingertips down your chest to your…”

You don’t even have to add in the more provocative words. Implying it alone is enough to make him ooze with anticipation.

Just remember, making your texts descriptive is key because men respond best to messages that make them literally feel or imagine something in vivid detail! Some good descriptive words to use are: feel, touch, grope, graze, shiver, tingle, taste, lick, crave and so on.

3. The “Seductive Stanza” Text

Like poetry, these kind of messages should pull on his heart strings and stir up emotion in him. By subtly seducing your man with text messages you’ll have him hooked.

An example of a Seductive Stanza could be anything from, “Guess what I’m wearing right now?” to “The things I’m going to do to you when you come over tonight…” Just remember to wait for a response before messaging him again. The last thing you want to do is scare the poor guy away!

4. The “Ego Stroker” Text

As the name implies, that’s exactly what you’re going to want to do in this kind of message.

There’s no denying that relationships can start to get stale after a while, what’s worse though is when complacency sneaks in. When this happens it’s easy to let things slip between you and your man, and before you know it he’s pulling away or feeling unappreciated.

By being the woman who makes your man feel good about himself and the things he accomplishes, he’ll want to keep you around. I mean, why wouldn’t he, YOU make him feel good.

To make sure that he feels like number one in your book, text him Ego Stroker messages that shine on his intelligence, physical appearance, sexual performance, attitude, how he treats you, the works! Just be careful not to over do it or your words will start to lose their magic.

Also be sure to only say things that are true. For instance, if he’s terrible at going down on you then you don’t want to stroke his ego by saying he’s great at it. Instead, pick something else that you truly believe he excels at and make it the focus of your text. Just be honest and speak from the heart.

A few examples of an Ego Stroker texts are:

“I love your arms and how strong they are. When you wrap them around me I feel like nothing in the world could harm me.”

“You’re such an amazing kisser. The way your lips feel pressed against mine is electrifying.”

“Your mind is my favourite mind. The way you think and how creative you are… it’s inspiring.”

Again, make these your own and you’ll have him tied around your finger.

5. The “Go Your Own Way” Text

What this kind of message is designed to do is to show your guy that as much as you love having him in your life, you still have your own agenda and other priorities, that you’re busy living your own fun, filled life. So, even if you have nothing going on when your guy texts you, you may want to fib a little bit and tell him that you’re doing something other than sitting around.

Now, I’m not condoning lying here, so if you are genuinely keeping busy, that’s even better because your story will seem more real. That said, if you are having a quiet night in, catching up on all your favourite television shows, you might want to spice up the message you send him by saying that you’re doing something else, something more creative or mentally stimulating.

This message works wonders for preventing your man from pulling away, especially when it comes to situations where he asks you to hangout with little notice. Since the key to keeping him intrigued is to make him work for your time and attention, by not being too available or ready to go anytime he comes calling, requiring a few days notice when it comes to making plans is a powerful move.

To give you an example of this kind of text message, let’s say that you’re just getting home from a long day at the office and your guy texts you asking if you want to grab dinner in half an hour. Instead of saying “Sure!” or “I’m just going to have a lazy night in,” instead spice it up with something like “Hey, I would love to join you for dinner tonight but unfortunately I already have dinner plans with some friends. I’m free Friday though if you want to rain cheque?”

Again, make this your own. If you don’t want to tell him that you’re going out then say that you’re busy working on a project, or that you’re having someone over. Whatever you tell him, just make sure it’s not too fabricated or unbelievable. The message you’re sending is that you’re “going your own way” tonight, so you’ll have to catch up with him soon. It can be hard to turn him down, especially if you’re really wanting to see him, but remember, nothing good comes easy.

About Amy North

Amy North is a women's relationship coach and best-selling author from Vancouver, Canada. Her high-acclaimed programs include "Text Chemistry" and "The Devotion System", both of which have helped thousands of women from around the world find (and keep) the man of their dreams.

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  • Hello ma’am,
    Ma’am I have a crush on this guy and I texted him that I like but I don’t really want or expect anything out of this , it was just a mere confession. Then after 3-4 days we both talked about sex and things(it was our first serious conversation and was 2-3 nights back) and after that he is not texting back for long periods of time and I have tried to keep the conversation funny and open ended as you said but not much is happening, I guess . Can you please tell me what to do .

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