Tinder Secrets for Women

As easy as it may sound, there’s more to Tinder than swiping left or right. This is especially true if you’re looking for love. The good news is that as a woman you have the odds in your favour.

In fact, a study by students at Indiana University showed that men swipe right 47% of the time, whereas women only do so 15%. That means that men are three times more likely to “like” a woman’s profile than we are to like men. This same study also showed that humour, a clever opening and looks are the top three attention drivers and that proximity plays a big role in your chances of hooking up.

With those stats in mind, let’s talk about some Tinder secrets for women, tricks to up your odds and make more men want to meet you.

1. Present Yourself In An Honest Way

As tempted as you may be to photoshop your image or to use an old photo of yourself, one from a time when you were younger and in better shape, don’t.

The number one complaint Tinder users have is that their date in no way resembled their online profile, so to avoid this from happening simply be real. Sure, an attractive profile pic may get you more right swipes, but that bubble will soon be burst when you have to meet with these men in real life. Instead be honest about your looks, it’s only going to be awkward when you meet in person if you’re lying… not to mention it’ll kick things off on sour note.

When choosing a photo it’s also important that you include photos of yourself alone. Yes, a fun group photo can work to your advantage, especially if you have one that shows you having a good time with friends, but don’t over do it with these shots. If all of your photos are of you with others then men may have a hard time telling who you are.

The same rule applies for selfies. One or two are okay, but make sure that not all of your photos are ones you’ve taken yourself. These get boring and lack originality. Instead use photos that are interesting and will make him feel desire. For instance, pictures of you travelling or shots that show your personality.

2. Include a Bio

You may be thinking, “But I just want to meet someone online quickly,” or “I don’t want to put that much effort into a hookup site.” If that’s you then it’s especially important that you keep this tip in mind.

Including a bio not only ups your odds of men messaging you, but it also gives them something to comment on. This is especially true if you come up with something creative and original. “Just looking to meet someone new” or “Other dating sites didn’t work out” are not good leads. This kind of negativity is something men find unattractive. Instead be your happy-go-lucky self, this is your chance to stand out.

When writing your bio think of it as a first impression. Just like you’d want to make a good one in person, this is your shot to do so online. You don’t have to include every detail about who you are and what your story is, but do note the things you’re into; this will give men something to relate to and a genuine taste of who you are.

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You don’t have to be overly serious here, in fact a bit of lighthearted humour can take you far. Just be sure that what you write is tasteful and intelligent. Don’t skimp on writing out full words either, “you” and “are”are not hard to type out, so don’t be lazy and butcher the English language.

Remember, this is your chance to show your best self, so make sure that your bio radiates positivity. When men get the impression that you’re fun to be around then your chances of finding a match will skyrocket.

3. Be Active

If a man takes the time to message you then be polite and give him a minute or two of your time by replying back. If you strike up a conversation, keep it going.

Bailing cold turkey isn’t fun for anyone, so if you feel like there’s no connection between the two of you after chatting for a while then be honest and say so. Don’t worry about hurting his feelings, believe me, it’s worse when you just vanish.

When messaging a match keep the conversation light and upbeat. No one wants to hear about how your marriage brutally ended, or how you can’t seem to find a “good guy.” Though it may be true, the only message he’s going to get from those comments is that you’re picky or have a problem meeting people. Again, keep it pleasant.

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Lastly, don’t over use emoticons. A well placed smiley face can add to a conversation, but if you’re blasting these off, along with thumbs ups and other symbols, then it’s going to make you appear lazy and like you’re unable to hold a proper conversation. Instead use words to show him what a great catch you are, and be yourself!

Tinder Secrets for Women

About Amy North

Amy North is a women's relationship coach and best-selling author from Vancouver, Canada. Her high-acclaimed programs include "Text Chemistry" and "The Devotion System", both of which have helped thousands of women from around the world find (and keep) the man of their dreams.

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