When it comes to sex, there’s no denying that men and women are wired differently. From romantic expectations to sex drives and taboos, it’s surprising how little we have in common.
Understanding the differences between men and women when it comes to sex can be incredibly helpful, especially if you’re in a relationship or looking for love.
Here are the five biggest sexual differences between genders.
1. Men Think About Sex More Often
You’ve probably heard the myth that men think about sex every seven seconds. While that’s not necessarily true, it has been proven that guys do think about sex more often than women.
A study in the Journal of Sexual Research suggests that young men think about sex almost 19 times a day, whereas young women think about sex about half that much.
Of course a person’s sex drive simmers as they age, but even so, men continue to fantasize about sex twice as often as women. Along with these stats surveys also show that men experience more spontaneous sexual arousal and have more frequent and varied fantasies than women.
2. A Woman’s Sex Drive Is More “Fluid”
While guys may score higher in libido, women are more open to different possibilities arousing them and their turn ons varies more than with men (whose turn ons are more straightforward and rigid).
Women are also more sexually influenced by the attitudes of those around them and their environments. This means their willingness to perform certain sexual acts is more likely to change over time than a man’s.
3. Women Value Emotional Connections
A study in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy suggests that women need to feel of intimacy and closeness with their partner before desire kicks in. This is why often times women want to talk and connect with a man before having sex.
Men, on the other hand, feel that having sex makes them connected and close with a woman.
4. Men Pursue Sex More Frequently
Whether they’re single or in a committed relationship, men pursue sex more than women. This is true for both heterosexual and homosexual relationships. In fact, a poll by a British research service shows that men are four times more likely to want sex on a first date than women.
Hand in hand with this, men also admit to wanting more sexual partners in their lifetimes than women, and are more open to casual sex.
5. Men and Women Orgasm Differently
Since men and women have different bodies and turn ons, it’s no surprise that how they experience desire is different too!
Studies show that on average it takes a man approximately four minutes to reach an orgasm, whereas woman average about 10 minutes.
Another survey of 2,000 women shows that 57% of them reach orgasm while having sex with their partner, while their man reaches orgasm 95% of the time. It also concludes that women experience multiple orgasms while having sex more easily, whereas men typically need a break between them. Perhaps slow and steady does win the race after all!