When you find yourself smitten, it can be hard to get the guy you’re into off your mind. From daydreaming about your future together, to reminiscing about the last date you went on, he may be monopolizing all of your thoughts.
How can you do the same to him? How can you get your man to think about you and only you? Would you believe me if I said that setting the right tone in your TEXT MESSAGES can do the trick, and make him feel intense love and desire for you?
Before I get ahead of myself, I want to quickly talk about the biggest mistake women make when on this quest, and that’s seeming desperate.
Since there’s a fine line between showing interest in a man and coming across as clingy, it’s important that you send him the right text messages. Perhaps even more importantly, you’re going to want to avoid blowing up his phone – doing so may force him to think about you, but that’s not necessarily a good thing. In fact, you may even be better off with him not thinking about you at all than thinking about you because you are driving him nuts!
Instead you’re going to want to create a bit of a challenge by letting him know that you’re interested in him, but not too easy of a catch. To get you rolling, here are five texting tips you can use to make your love interest head over heels with desire!
Being bold is about genuinely loving and appreciating yourself for you who are and what you do. To make this happen, you’re going to have to set aside some time and tune into your own head and heart. Maybe you take a solo stroll and do some thinking, or perhaps you write it out on a list. Either way, recognizing your strengths and what makes you such a great catch is important if you’re looking for love.
Doing this you’ll come across your flaws too, but that’s actually a good thing! When you can pinpoint your weaknesses and the areas of your life that need a bit of extra attention then you’ll have much more luck improving them. Don’t freak out if you realize there are a dozen things that you don’t like about yourself, now is the time to change!
Once you have sorted through your thoughts and come to terms with where you’re at in life, now it’s time to boost your confidence. Of course there are countless ways to do so, but to get you started make a point to focus on the good in your life. This kind of positivity will translate into confidence in your texts and is a great first step.
Next, pick up some new projects and get around to tackling your dreams. Making personal pleasures a part of your life is going to have an astounding impact on your texting relationship, and not to mention they make for great texting topics.
As the old saying goes, “Nothing good comes easy,” so if you’re looking to make him feel intense desire for you then you’re going to need to make him work for it.
Picture this: Let’s say there are two women; Ashley and Christine. Both of them like a guy named Joe, and both of them have a different approach when it comes to showing it. Ashley goes out of her way to send over the top messages that ooze sexual innuendos and makes it known that Joe could have her any day, any time, Christine does quite the contrary and plays the slow game. She’s a bit flirtatious, but she knows how to hold back too. In other words, she creates tension between Joe and herself, but she does so in a way that keeps him on his toes and wondering whether or not he could actually win her over. Because of this intrigue, Joe is interested in Christine.
This is why it’s important to keep the man you’re into working for your affection and attention. To do so you’re going to want to send him subtle hints that you’re into him, without going overboard in your text messages. When done properly this sort of encouragement will have him hooked!
Whether you’re ready to jump between the sheets with this new guy or not, letting him know that he does in fact stand a chance in this department will make him feel intense desire for you.
That’s not to say that you have to explicitly tell him so (saying you want to have sex with him isn’t the smoothest move you can make and I highly suggest you don’t do this), but subtly teasing him will do the trick.
From clever hints to playful wordings, there are so many ways you can do this successfully. My recommendation here is to read the signals he’s sending you and respond accordingly. For example, if he’s all about the flirty banter then play along with it. If he’s into texting about the physical aspects of your relationship, then choose the right words to tease and turn him on.
Be careful though; you don’t want to come on TOO strongly so let him take the lead and give back about 75% of what he’s giving you.
If you’ve ever been in a situation where you’ve felt unappreciated or undervalued then you know how much this sucks and how detrimental it can be to your ego. With this in mind, it makes sense why a man wouldn’t want to be with someone who didn’t take the time to tell him that he’s cared for and appreciated. There’s no excuses not to either because it doesn’t take much to show him that you appreciate him, yet this kind of kindness will move mountains for him!
To do so, recognize and thank him for the little things he does for you in your text messages. Even something as simple as sending, “I appreciate you and love having you in my life,” or “Thanks for being there for me,” will be soul-shaking in his books. So DO do these things! It’s basically the recipe to winning him over.
Be Your Own Person
Take a moment to think about some of the ladies you admire most, be it those you know personally or celebrity figures. Ask yourself what it is about them that you like so much. I’m willing to bet that it has something to do with being driven, ambitious, strong women.
The truth is, men want to be with women who they can complement, not complete. This means that if you’re sending him the message that you NEED a guy in your life by being clingy or co-dependent, then you’re going to have a harder time getting one to commit.
Opposite that, if you have a fun full life and are the motivated, inspiring type then men will be lined up for a shot at love! Not to mention how much he’ll look forward to hearing from you because you’re the full package!