When you hear the word “flirting” the same few ideas come to mind. Playful banter, flipping your hair, licking your lips and batting those lashes. Since these gestures can come across cliche, if you’re looking to nail your flirting game then try these six quick flirting tips.
1. Open Up Your Body
Ever noticed how easy it is to form an impression about someone based on what their body is saying? This is why how you communicate nonverbally with your body is extremely powerful.
To start, open yourself up. Uncross your arms, sit or stand straight and tall, and keep your head high. By physically opening yourself up it sends the message that you’re approachable and interested. Unlike if you were curled in a ball, blocking the world out, it will make men comfortable talking to you.
2. Use Your Eyes
Your eyes are extremely expressive, which means you can send the guy you’re into a flirty message simply by looking at him in a certain way.
You may have heard of “smizing,” a term coined by Tyra Banks. Essentially it means smiling with your eyes. To start, relax your face, smooth out your forehead, open your eyes wide and pick a focus point. Lower your chin and partially squint without moving your cheeks. Next, slightly part your lips, elongate your neck and pull your shoulders down. The look you’re giving should communicate interest, attraction and playfulness. This combo can be tricky, but it’s definitely worth perfecting because it packs quite the flirty punch.
While speaking with the guy you’re into maintain eye contact. Not only is it a sign of respect, but it’s also a subtle way to show you’re interested in what he’s saying. If you’re shy or feel uncomfortable looking in his eyes for more than a few seconds at a time then use the triangle approach. To do this shift your focus randomly from his mouth to his left eye and then right eye. It lets him know that you’re focused without the pressure of staring for too long.
3. Touch Him
This gesture can be as grand or gentle as you choose, but the point is to make physical contact. Maybe you gentle graze him with your body while passing by, or perhaps you lightly touch his arm while laughing at something he said.
Entering his personal bubble may seem intrusive, but when you can find an excuse to do so it becomes more appropriate. For example, if the two of you are in a noisy room you could whisper in his ear to get close to him, or gently brush real or imaginary lint off his shirt. Don’t overdo it, but a bit of casual touches during conversation can let him know you’re interested.
Smiling is hands down the most obvious sign of a flirt, so anytime you’re around the man you’re into flash him a smile. When you do, a couple things will happen.
First, he’ll return the gesture. Since smiling is extremely contagious, by smiling at him you’re almost guaranteed a smile back.
Second, it’ll stroke his ego and make him feel attractive. Better yet, when you cause him to smile it will release endorphins in his brain. These chemicals will elate him so do this on a regular basis and it won’t be long until he associates his positive feelings with you.
It’s a known fact that women laugh more around guy they’re into, which means showing the man you’re talking to that you think he’s funny is an easy way to flirt. Like most things on this list though, be careful not to over do it or you might risk ruining your reputation and look a bit ditsy.
Like smiling, laughter is contagious and considered one of the more obvious signs of a fun, outgoing person. Show him this side of you and you’ll have him hooked in no time.
6. Use Your Words
There’s a huge difference in the way you speak to someone you’re attracted to and someone who’s a friend, acquaintance or stranger.
When talking with a man you’re trying to flirt with it’s important that you speak cheerfully and keep your tone and words positive. When it comes to the actual context of your conversation, feel free to switch things up. Of course this will depend largely on your relationship and how comfortable you are with him, but you may choose to compliment him on something he’s wearing one day, then choose to gently tease him the next. How he responds will play a bit part in where the conversation goes next.
Another helpful tip for flirting with words is to use his name in conversation. It’s been proven that saying someone’s name out loud will make that person feel closer to you. So, if you’re talking to a man named “Joe” you could say, “Hey Joe, how’s it going?” or “I like that shirt you’re wearing Joe. It really brings out your eyes.”
It’s easy to spot a flirt when they’re playing their cards right, and these tips will definitely let a man know you’re into him.