When talking about relationships, one of the most common issues couples face is jealousy. Whether he’s anxious about her spending time with male friends, or she feels insecure when comparing herself to the females in his life, not being able to overcome jealousy is a pretty awful feeling.
That said, when used correctly, jealousy can be an extremely powerful tool for making a man want you. You may think this sounds crazy, but stick around, because I’m about to share five text messages that will stir up that green-eyed monster in the best way possible.
Before I share these five types of texts with you though, I want to start by giving you a quick but important pointer, so take note and make this your new philosophy: do.not. reply. to. his. messages. right. away.
Since part of the magic of making a guy fall for you is not being too clingy or available, if you’re answering his text messages the second he sends them, then guess what? You are going to look pretty desperate. That’s why a good rule of thumb is to wait anywhere from ten minutes to half an hour before responding to him.
Of course that changes if you’re having a conversation or discussing a time sensitive issue, but unless he needs to hear from you right away, hold back and let some time pass between texts — it’ll save you from looking like you’re sat by the phone, waiting for his name to pop up, and it’ll keep him curious about what you’re so preoccupied with. Don’t brush this tip aside, because when used with the messages you’re about to learn it will do wonders for getting your guy jealous.
Now, let’s get rolling.
1. Be Mysterious
There are few things more powerful than the imagination and when left to it’s own creations, there’s no saying what stories it can unravel. With that in mind, if you’re looking to make a man jealous then withhold some information when it comes to your plans and leave blank spaces for him to wonder about or fill in himself.
Of course this requires balance. I mean, if you don’t tell the poor guy anything then he’s not going to get jealous but bored, so be fair and decide when is and isn’t a good time to text in cryptic.
A good example of a mysterious text is something like “I had so much fun last night, but I’m paying for it today!” or “Just getting back from an awesome lunch date, I’ll message you in a bit!”
These types of texts work because while they’re seemingly innocent, his mind will race with thoughts about who you were with and what happened. When this happens there’s a good chance he’ll ask you for more details. If this is the case then do supply him with these, but again, if you can create some mystery in your response then you’ll be sure to push his jealousy buttons.
2. Mention Other Guys
“Chris gave me a ride home from work today,” or “I’m going out to check out that new martini lounge with Ryan” … those little mentions of other men will have a huge impact when it comes to awakening the green-eyed-monster in your man.
To explain why, let’s reverse rolls for a moment and take about a scenario that most of you can probably relate to.
Let’s say you are talking to a guy who you’re interested in and he mentions another female. Right away your brain starts processing that he’s referring to another woman and you can’t help but wonder who she is and what their relationship is all about. Is it sexual? Did they ever date? Are they just friends? Is he in any way attracted to her? Well guess what, that kind of jealousy works both ways.
So, when you tell your guy that you have been or plan to spend time with another male, those similar types of questions will arise, which in the grand scheme of things is perfect for making him want you.
The key here is to be smooth and subtle, meaning you’re going to want to make it seem natural when you bring up other guys, not like you’re forcing it. If he gets the impression that you’re trying to make him jealous then he’ll either get annoyed or won’t buy into your stories.
If you don’t want to make plans with other guys and don’t think you can swing saying you are if you aren’t, then something as simple as mentioning how hilarious your male coworker is, or how a pal of yours got a handsome new haircut can be just as effective. Again though, balance is key here. If you seem too interested in someone else then sure, you’ll make your guy jealous, but it could also be your undoing. You don’t want that!
3. Tell Him You Have Plans
Hand in hand with my previous points, if you’re looking to make a man jealous and wanting you then a great strategy is to make it known that you have plans, but without telling him what those plans are.
Now, don’t panic, this sounds tricky but it’s actually one of the easier types of messages you can send. For example, if you and him are texting back and forth then pull this jealousy-maker off by saying, “I gotta get going. I need to go buy shoes for tomorrow night.”
Of course you don’t have to use that exact example and I encourage you to make this your own. Just remember, the point is to imply that you have upcoming plans that need tending to, but don’t mention what those plans are. If he does ask, wait at least half an hour before responding to him; doing so will trigger the jealousy you’re looking to awaken.
Be sure to always read the situation. If you feel like your text messages are going to upset or piss him off then don’t send them. After all, you’re trying to win him over, not push him away! Be wise and use your judgement.
4. Send A Hot Photo
This one is pretty self explanatory. Take a photo of yourself looking AMAZING and send it to him.
Be smart here though, you don’t want to send him anything too promiscuous and definitely no nude photos. What I’m talking about here are shots of yourself, dolled up for a night out. This means hair and makeup done (if that’s your thing), a flattering outfit and toothy smile to boot! This type of text messages will have him boiling with jealousy for all the men who get to lay eyes on you that night.
The reason why you want to keep this photo classy is because the last thing you want to do is make him think that you’re going out intentionally to get gawked at by men.
5. Always Have Fun
Whether it’s a mundane Monday morning or sunny Saturday afternoon, by being the woman who is always having fun you will be able to increase the likelihood of getting your man jealous. Why does this work? Well since men are naturally drawn to women who radiate positivity, if you are doing this then a few things are going to happen.
First, you’re going to get attention from other men (because again, guys are attracted to it).
Second, the guy you are into is going to get jealous of your exciting lifestyle, especially if you’re giving him a taste of it, but keeping your buffer zone and doing your own thing.
Third, when a man thinks that you need him to have a good time then he’ll assume that it’s impossible for you to enjoy yourself unless he’s around. By doing the opposite it lets him know that you don’t need him, which, believe it or not, will make him jealous of your independence. This sounds strange, but it’s been proven time and time again.
To have him steaming with jealousy all you have to do is tell him what a great time you had without him. Of course you don’t want to say it so directly, but you get the point!